My latest addition.

[mrdelmonti]

So normally I wouldn't do this but I think I just need a bit of a vent.

A few of you will know that my wife and I have been anxiously waiting for our little girl to be born. On Wednesday she decided to make her way into this world, just not in the way anyone expected.

Everything was going well right up until the last minute, the was a problem with the cord and my wife was rushed into theatre and an emergency c section was performed with her under a general.

I've never experienced so much panic in a hospital room before. It was genuinely terrifying not knowing what was happening.

Unfortunately our little girl went for a period of time with no oxygen, the doctors did everything they could to minimise it, because of this she's been moved to a specialist unit in Bristol, heavily sedated and chilled to try and help minimise any damage that may have been caused.

I'm glad she's in the right place getting the best care she can, it's just very hard to process, neither myself or wife can pick her up or touch her and she's so heavily sedated it's unlikely she'll even realise we're there.

This is our first child and it's not an easy start.

Like I said I wouldn't normally use a forum to vent like this but I think I just need to get it all off my chest and in some ways this is the easiest way.

So anyway, I am currently scared, exhausted and trying my best to keep my wife in one piece but I am now a dad to my little girl Evelyn.

 

[Julian T]

Not much I can say other than my heart goes out to you, you and your family will be in all our thoughts I am sure.

 

[Beau]

I think members should feel free to vent like you have. We all have tough times in life, and I speak for myself and the majority of the members when I say we all support each other here quite well.

All the best for you, your wife and your first born.

 

[Ian Chuter]

Agree with the above and our thoughts are with you. Congratulations to you and Mrs D.

 

[stumog]

Sorry to hear this. It's a hard time for anybody to to have that go wrong is terrible.

I wish you all the best in father hood.

If you need any help whire in Bristol pm for my number.

Hope she is better soon.

 

[froggy Steve]

I wish you all the best, & I hope little Evelyn is OK

 

[lc 120]

Al the best, my families thoughts are with you....

 

[StarCruiser]

A problem shared is a problem halved. And agree with sharing this one here.
My aunt is called Evelyn. I've always thought it a lovely name.
Thoughts are with you all for the best outcome possible.

Richard

 

[flint]

A very hard start, thinking of you both and Evelyn, hope the day goes well.

 

[Chris]

Evelyn's a lovely name. I like it. Normal. Well chosen.

We had a similar scare when our daughter was born partially paralysed. There were several anxious months of waiting and now 16 years on, she can barely move at all.

Oh, she's not paralysed, she's just a teenager. I'm sure that this is all precautionary and for the best. Hopefully it won't be long before she's wailing and keeping your wife up all night. I'll give you some tips on that another time.

 

[tonytoyota]

Hi all the beast it will come good from Tony and family.

 

[Scott]

So sorry to hear this, ending up in theatre during child birth is an intense experience, so many people and everything happening so fast. I really do hope that the hospital staffs efforts have given Evelyn the very best chance of recovery.

Take care of each other, Evelyn will know that she has parents that love her and are watching over her.

Congratulations on becoming parents to your beautiful baby girl. We have everything crossed for all three of you.

 

[Sag]

Congratulations mummy and daddy D,so sorry for how your daughters life has started but don't worry as said above its just better to be safe,it's amazing what they can do now a days,my granddaughter was born 2 month early with problems and now at 14 month old let me tell you she's making up for the quite times,
And as said above this forum is full of people with a good heart to listen and talk to as I found out my self not all that long ago when I needed it and helped me keep my chin up.

 

[Shayne]

After 16 hours of labour and a birth that wouldn't come with nurses that refused to listen to a young couple for whom it was a first time my mate started trashing the hospital demanding a surgeon or somebody that knows what they are doing attend his wife . When such a person was found an emergency cesarean was ordered at a glance . The last time i seen my godson he was approaching the end of a mechanics apprenticeship and spending all his money chasing girls .

Keep heart patience and caution are the tools in use .

 

[grantw]

Sobering read for this morning. Especially when from the title I was expecting to read about a new land cruiser.

My thoughts are with you.

 

[Rodger]

Mr D,
Rest assured that you are not the first to experience this and fathers being 'kept in the dark' is nothing new, undoubtedly unintentionally, but the hospital staff's priority will always be the mother and child. 'Taking your wife to theatre' and similar unexplained remarks are the best you can expect. And then, later, to see your first born in an oxygen tent, etc and be unable to hold them is heart breaking but in a relatively short while, a matter of a few days, the hospital gets everything sorted, well at least for us they did. And that was nearly 40 years ago.
For us the only side effect for our first born is that when he is stressed the constriction point from the cord on his neck shows.
Our hearts go out to you and our thoughts are with you. Be strong; your wife and Evelyn need your strength.

Regards,

 

[clivehorridge]

It wasn't as drastic as your circumstances, but our daughter Ana had a difficult start. My heart is with you as a new father in such circumstances, but take faith and comfort that little Evelyn is in the right place receiving appropriate attention.

Your post has brought our experience flooding back to me, so we are with you at this difficult time, be patient as Shayne said, only the best will be the outcome.

Our thoughts are with you daddy, stay strong for your lovely family.

I'll now dry off my iPad screen.

 

[StarCruiser]

Blast it Clive, now you've got me going.
I feel she will be fine. And she's in the best place. The NHS gets a bit of stick sometimes but when push comes to shove (no pun intended) they really do pull out all the stops.

 

[StarCruiser]

Sobering read for this morning. Especially when from the title I was expecting to read about a new land cruiser.

My thoughts are with you.

Exactly my thoughts.

 

[Brian S]

mrdelmonti Sorry to here about your Daughter, you have our thoughts and best wishes for her speedy recovery,
Bristol Hospital is a fantastic hospital, and capable of near on miracles

We had similar to this when our daughter was born in 83 in North Devon Hospital, they rushed wife and daughter to Bristol, and she was on the operating table undergoing surgery within 12hrs of being born.
She is now grown up, and I have a grandson